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The Rules of Swinging |
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Anyone (yourself included) may say no at any time for any
reason, without further explanation. If
you’re in a situation that makes you uncomfortable Just Say No! Don’t
jeopardize your joy and satisfaction with the life-style – or that of your
partner, by doing anything against your will.
Don’t submit to guilt or pressure.
Swinging is fun. Keep it
that way. Disentangle yourself as
quickly as possible with a firm, but gentle response.
Be honest, but up-front, in order to avoid misunderstandings.
Always be kind. First and foremost. it’s
the proper, humane way to behave. Secondly,
you may reconsider and want to party later.
Keep your options open. Everyone has been rejected at some time. If you’re rejected do NOT take personal offense. Keep the encounter upbeat and light. Who knows? The person who passes up the opportunity today, may want to swing with you tomorrow, or may be the key to you meeting another terrific partner!
Know your own
likes, dislikes, boundaries and strengths, thoroughly. Encourage and aid others in their own explorations.
Keep relationships friendly and pleasant.
Always propose, never impose! Swingers
feel their way through encounters in more than one way. Open all channels of communication.
Deal with
jealousy head-on!
It’s a normal, human
reaction. Learn what triggers
jealousy in yourself and in your partner. Then
work things out. This may mean
modifying certain activities, curtailing others or finding new means of sexual
expression. Festering jealousies
are destructive. Seek Constructive
remedies as soon as possible.
Let your steady
partner know he or she is always number one! Take time to stroke their ego.
Be generous with a kiss and a smile.
Touch bases with each other often, so that you both feel secure.
Always arrive together. Honor
any and all prior understandings. Always leave
together.
Use common
sense and courtesy when you’re at a swing club, a meeting place, or someone’s house.
Concentrate on being kind, thoughtful and sensitive and smile.
Happiness is contagious!
Respect the
guidelines others set, and make your own wishes and desires clear. There should be No Surprises!
If you’re Bi for example ask if the couple or single you’ve chosen
has a similar interest. Likewise,
if you really object to Greek or Bondage, bring it up for discussion.
Once you’re all comfortable with the format, let the games begin.
Before, during
and after you party, pay close attention to “Body Language.” There’s more to human interaction than just sexual signals,
but that’s definitely part of the picture.
Enhance your romance by considering the total person.
Learn to read the signs and you’ll pick up on what makes your partner
comfortable, happy, excited, and ultimately satisfied.
DISCRETION IS
PARAMOUNT IN THE SWING COMMUNITY!
Who
you see, what you see and what you and everyone else does, MUST remain private.
Never, never discuss details with anyone not intimately involved.
Promoting the life-style is wonderful.
Publicizing it is unforgivable. Demand absolute discretion…... And be worthy of the same!
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